Relationships are rarely simple
Whether you're arguing more than you used to, feeling distant from each other, dealing with a breach of trust, or just sensing that something isn't working — couples therapy can help. It's not about taking sides or assigning blame. It's a space where you both feel heard, and where we work together to understand what's happening and find a way through.
What couples therapy actually is
There are a lot of misconceptions about couples therapy. It isn't a place to argue with a referee, or a last resort before a relationship ends. It's a collaborative process — where both of you work with me to understand the patterns that are causing difficulty, communicate more openly, and rebuild or strengthen your connection. Many couples come not because things are at breaking point, but simply because they want things to be better.
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How I can help
I hold a COSRT Level 5 qualification in Couple and Relationship Therapy, and I draw on CBT, Attachment Theory and IFS to help couples understand what's happening beneath the surface — and what to do about it. Every couple is different, so the work is always shaped around the two of you.
Some of the areas we commonly focus on:
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1. Communication - Learning to express needs clearly, listen without defensiveness, and have difficult conversations without them escalating.
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2. Conflict - Understanding what's really driving arguments and developing practical ways to resolve disagreements that work for both of you.
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3. Trust - If trust has been damaged, we work to rebuild it gradually and honestly, restoring emotional safety and intimacy.
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4. Patterns and history - Exploring how past experiences and attachment styles are showing up in your relationship now, and how to change those patterns.
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5. Shared goals - Setting clear, meaningful goals for your relationship and working towards them together, at a pace that suits you both.
Taking the first step
When there's another person involved, getting started can feel even more daunting — especially if you're not sure how to raise it with your partner. If that's where you are, I can help you have that conversation. Just get in touch and we'll take it from there.
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Sessions are available evenings and weekends, online or in person in Edinburgh.
